Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
When is enough enough? Me and my boyfriend were together for almost two and half years. We had a breakup after the first four months he told me he just wanted to be alone but ended up seeing some one else. I didnt know about it and only found out afterwards, I was hurt because he lied but thought it was just a rebound thing nothing to worry about.
From then on things were better, we had a lot of fun and I was happy. But then 2 years later he does the exact same thing. Except worse this time. Same reasons... scared of being with one person for the rest of his life... he then came back after realising he cant replace me and freedom isnt that great if you're unhappy. I'm all for second chances... but he screwed up and really hurt me this time. All my friends tell me to let go and move on but I'm so torn. When we broke up the second time i was devestated... I became depressed and it felt like my life was falling apart... He'd come back but keep me at a distance, like he still wanted me there but didn't want to commit. I held on because i truly beleived I loved him. He even told me to my face he didn't love me anymore and wanted to be 'free'. He was a real asshole there's no other way to explain it.
He lied to me, made me feel worthless and I swore to myself I'd never go back to him after the way he made me feel. But now he's back trying to make up for the damage he's done, I know he doesn't deserve another chance. But when I'm with him it's like I forget about all the pain he put me through and that's not right... I'm scared of being hurt again. Yes i'm emotional and irrational but I really dont know what to do! It's the classic case of following my head or my heart. It feels right being with him but I know it's wrong.
Odds are that the same thing will happen again since he has already broken up with you twice. You just have to decide whether the current pleasure is worth the likeliness of some pain down the road. In fact, if you anticipate the pain it is less likely to hurt so much.
-- from George
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