"I hate you I hate you!" And she kept saying it all night while crying
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Me and my Girlfriend were talking all night, and I ask her what would you do if I was sleeping and you woke up first, and she said "Well, I would stroke your hair and kiss you and watch you until you wake up." Then I replied "Well, you wouldn't go back to sleep?" She then sighs. And says "Whatever, I'm never good enough for you is that it?" And I reply "No no no, everything you do is good enough" and she says "No, then why do you always critize what I do?" and i say "I'm sorry, I thought I'd except you to say go back and sleep with me..." and she brings up someone that I didn't really like back in the 8th grade. "So, is that girl from 8th grade better than me?" And i say "No, you've always been better." And she asks "Did you like her?" ANd I say "No." And she says "Yes you have." And I say "Maybe I have but I don't I only liked you." And then she says "Oh my god... How could you.... You said you didn't like her at all... I hate you I hate you!" And she kept saying it all night while crying.... I feel so stupid and guilty.... Now adays she either stays quiet towards me when I 'm with her or she would just turn her back towards me what can I do? Please help.
You did =nothing= wrong. There is something much deeper going on here in her that you need to uncover if you're going to get back in with her. Sit her down and ask what's really going on, and how she's feeling and what can you do to help her out. Don't get all defensive over that you do indeed care about her, but state it as a fact. Don't let her secondguess it by saying, "You hate me!" ... say, "you know that's not true. Now what's really the problem?"
You might want to quiz her best friends as well. Tell them that you care deeply for her and you really don't know what's bothering her but you want to fix it so she's happy again. They may be willing to help.
-- from Jenn
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