so i told him either drugs or me so he chose me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My question is very difficult!! I have been with my boyfriend for two years now I'm 18 years old and it seems like we have so many problems. He used to go out with his friends and smoke weed do coke and stuff like that so i told him either drugs or me so he chose me. well now it seems like he would rather be with every other girl in the world than me. he has pictures of other girls naked from mardi gras which i found and took. i broke up with him after that and he begged me back now i find porno on his internet and shit like that and i know he's a guy but i hate how i feel when i find this stuff. i think i satisfy my man when it comes to sex so i don't know what i'm doing wrong. i love him so much but it seems like every day i find more stuff that i can't stand about him. i don't know if i should end it or what. Please help me!!!!!
I don't know what guys find so interesting about porn. Men get visually stimulated and it seems to be part of their nature. But they know that it's not real, and they're not looking to date those women, so I would ignore it. He's clearly chosen you over drugs, which is a -huge- thing, so he loves you. Have more faith in yourself. There's nothing you're doing wrong.
Now whether you should stay with him or not, that's a tough question. You should make up lists of what you like and don't like about him, and then figure out which list you wanted to put more on. That tells you what your gut reaction is, and usually it's correct.
I wish you luck.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com