The Telephone Game
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
There is this girl I like... and for awhile she liked me, but everytime I get the courage to ask her out... I hear from someone that she doesn't like me anymore... so i don't ask. But thenin like 3 weeks we get close aain... and then the day I am going to ask... I talk to her bestfriend and she says that she doesn't like me anymore. This has been going on for a while now, and I don't know what to do..... I really want to ask her out, and now she likes me.... what do I do?
If you read through my other responses, I think you can probably guess my answer. DO NOT USE THE TELEPHONE GAME TO FIND OUT THE FEELINGS OF SOMEONE SPECIAL. You should NEVER play this game of asking friends what SHE feels. You are demeaning her feelings by expecting her to shout out to other people how she feels about you. Your feelings and her feelings for each other should be things *you two* talk about. If you're not close enough that you talk about these things yet, it's time to get that close! The very first thing you have to work on is your ability to talk to her. If she is special to you, SHOW her by being her friend.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com