He never went back to work all week and only talked to me a few times.
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I've been seeing my boyfriend for 10 months. (6 months after I separated from my husband of 5 years) He pursued me until I went out with him, and seemed to really want a serious relationship & treated me very well. At this point, I've completely fallen for him. We live 2 hours away from each other, so we only see each other on the weekends & occassionally one night a week. We've been together every weekend for the past 9 months, and talk on the phone 3-4 times a day.
Last week he went out fishing with a friend and was to come in at 11pm & call me. I woke up the next morning at 3am & called to check on him since he never called. He had just gotten in & asked that I call him back at 7am to make sure he was up for work. So, I called at 7 & he didn't answer. Tried back at 7:30 & he'd turned his phone off. Never heard from him all day until that night at 12:30 am. His boss had called me all day looking for him since he didn't show up to work. He never went back to work all week and only talked to me a few times.
On Friday morning, he called to inform me he was going camping with a friend for the weekend. I told him I didn't want him to go, that we needed to talk, but he said he needed time away - to have fun & get away from his stress. Never called me all weekend, not even on Sunday night to let me know if he got back. Thought he would call today (monday morning) since we normally talk every day before work.
This is driving me crazy. He said last week that he loves me & he knows he's being selfish. I am at a loss of what to think. Is he creating a situation for me to dump him or does he think I'll keep putting up with this type of disrespect for my feelings? I am absolutely miserable without him & this not knowing is killing me!
I can see why this is driving you crazy. It only makes sense to worry about this behavior which is so out of character. I can only say that you should give him some time to come back to himself. He can't keep this up forever. And when he comes back to earth, then you can find out why he acted this way and find solutions for how he can prevent it next time.
Don't throw away this relationship just yet. I don't think it's over. I don't think he's doing this to destroy anything, I think that for some reason he's overwhelmed with life and needs a sanity break. Don't press him until he's ready to give answers otherwise it will just be longer before he's under control again.
I wish you the best.
-- from Jenn
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