How do I make him understand Im not a slut and never have been?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I were together for 2 months and we split up over reasons because I have a son and things were moving to fast. We still hung out for a month and slept together. Over this time frame of a month another guy kissed me and I pulled away. I told my exboyfriend at the time about it and we still got back together. Over the next 4 months he still dwells on this moment which is so insignificant. We just broke up and I want to be with him but hes so paranoid. How do I make him understand Im not a slut and never have been? Why cant he trust me.
Guys can be so territorial and silly sometimes. It looks like your ex can't get over this piece because any time he kisses you, he's thinking of that other guy. You can protest all you want, but it's not going to make him give up this thought. He needs to get over it himself. Try to find out what he's thinking, what the hangup is. Tell him that if anything it was the perfect way for you to really know that he is the one for you and that the other guys just weren't good enough.
If he's in for it, ask him to go to counselling with you to work out the issues.
I wish you the best.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com