i want to be with him for our lifetime.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have been best friends with this guy for 2 and a half years now, we are both 16 and about 8 months ago we got really serious. we were always kinda dating, off and on, but then it was amazing.
See the thing is, we got a little 2 serious for our age, we wanted to wait until we were married to make love but it was getting really difficult, well, a week ago he told me he didnt love me like he used to, and of chorse i was histarical. but i know he still cares because hes saying it will be too hard for him to see me and stuff.. and i know him and ive never heard him sound so down..) i believe with all of my heart that within a while(who knows it could be a few years) that he will realise he does still love me as much as he always said he did. and the reason i do is, he did not end it becuase he didnt love me anymore, he ended it becuase he couldnt handle a serious relationship(like he told me), he says he never will,(he was raised by his father to not show emotions, so you can see how that would put him in a very hard spot..) but i know he is only 16 and things will change, hopefully for the better.. please answer this and tell me if i am doing the right thing.. i am going to wait as long as i have to for him, for we connected, and i want to be with him for our lifetime. my dad says i am dealing with it in a very mature way and id like to get some kind of opinion from you guys of what i can do to get him back.. i will not push him in anyway, for it is his life and his decission.. thank you very much...
You sound so very mature, I can see why he liked you and why your dad says you're doing the right thing. It's very rare that we get a question like this that shows such understanding and empathy.
Yes, I think you should wait for him. If he finds another girlfriend, then you might want to wait a little longer because he will find by contrast that you were a -much- better match for him than the new girl, and it might just be the impetus to bring him back to you.
I wish you luck!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com