I am crazy with jealousy. I feel as though he will leave me for her.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I know I am a jealous person, I have been burned badly in a past relationship. I am 29 years old and have been married for 10 years, my husband has never cheated on me but he has been talking over the internet with a 22 year old young woman who is one of his employees, and on occasion they go to lunch together. I am crazy with jealousy. I feel as though he will leave me for her. She is a little on the wild side if you know what I mean and it scares me to death. I have asked him if there is anything going on and he says no. I have also asked him to stop taking away from our time together to talk to her every night....Is this the wrong thing to do? Am I just supposed to deal with it when it is tearing me up inside?
I can understand your concern and I think that you have a right to ask your husband about her. However, since trust and honesty and faith in each other is crucial for a healthy relationship, you should have this faith in him and believe him when he says there is nothing going on. Yes, it means putting aside your jealousy and insecurity about his relationship with her. You might stress to him that if she is an employee, he might want to avoid the appearance of impropriety of dealing with her outside of work. You might also ask him to take you out for dinner with her sometime so you can meet her and "stake your claim" as it were. You do have a point that evenings are your time with him and he shouldn't be squandering it with her the whole time.
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-- from Jenn
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