well i met another guy and we have something very special between us.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i have been in a long distance relationship with a guy i knew before i left that state. we stared dating once i left and we were doing very well in our long distance relationship but since he has gotten a night job we barely talk. well i met another guy who is someone i also knew from back home and we have something very special between us. we are so much alike and i know he likes me. we talk every night and laugh the whole time! i haven't talked to my boyfriend in two weeks and he just called me today telling me that he loves me, but i can't be with two guys. i like both of them with all my heart but i don't know what to do. should i break up with my boyfriend and see where this new guy takes me? or should i end it with the new guy? also, if i break up with my boyfriend; how should i do it? i am so confused and i know that no matter what i do i am going to be hurting someone. please help.
Yes, you are going to be hurting someone no matter what you do. The only thing to do is sit down and figure out which one you want more, and then tell the other that though you deeply care for them, you feel like your road's taking you down a different path and it's best for you to call it quits with them.
In order to figure out which you want, you need to look at your current needs (what you want them to do with you on a daily basis) and your future needs (will you want to move in with them? What are you willing to sacrifice in order to be with them? Do you/he want kids? What long-term items are must haves that the one or other are strong or weak in?) You have to look beyond your current fun to find which will be better suited for you in the long haul. Otherwise you'll have a fun playmate for a short time until you realize that they don't suit your needs.
I wish you luck!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com