Our Parents Keep Us Apart
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am in a confused state. I had bf...and we were together for around 1.5yrs. I am 23 and he is 25. we are working in same office. now after hanging around for 1.5yrs we decided to marry. but when this was told to our parents they have disagreed on our decision because of the caste difference and now they have forced us to do a break off.
he loves me a lot and even I do, but even he wants his parents happy and so says that he can not go against them.
So he has unwillingly told me not to continue with our relationship, and now because of some bad conversations between our parents they have forced us even for having no friendship.
I want him back in my life and also want to marry him
but also can not tell him to go against his parents
and now the situation is like as he has promised my parents and his parents and so he is not ready to talk to
me and meet me or mail me, and he has told me to forget him.
but it is v hard and impossible for both of us to stay away and forget each other , so this has resulted in bad health and continues crying for both of us. but now I have a fear whether he will come back or not ? or he will leave me alone and won't come back for sake of happiness of his parents and my parents. can u pls suggest what should be done by me in this situation.
It's time for you guys to read classic literature. There are THOUSANDS of stories about couples whose parents keep them apart for all SORTS of silly reasons. You guys are both ADULTS. Yes, it's nice to have parental consent. But I'm going to be a bit harsh here. Your parents will not live forever, and they will not be living in the house with you two! Only YOUR TWO FEELINGS MATTER. You two deserve to have love and happiness. You have FOUND that with each other. Many people do NOT find true love for all sorts of reasons, so the fact that you two have found it is a special thing.
Yes, your parents want the best for you. But they are NOT YOU. They have raised you each as adults so that you can survive in the world on your own brains, making your own decisions, being your own people. So they are now FAILING as parents because even though you are both adults, they are trying to treat you like children and insist that you make a choice which is going to affect the REST OF YOUR LIFE the way THEY would make it. Which is simply wrong. This is YOUR choice to make. YOU are the one who will live with it morning, noon and night, and live with it LONG after they have passed away. It is simply selfish for them to try to control your life after having raised you.
Do not destroy your lives because of what your parents say. Yes, respect them. Yes, say you understand their fears. But in the end this is YOUR decision, because YOU TWO know what you have with each other, how you will bring joy to each others lives. For your parents to deny you this joy because of their OWN desire for their OWN respect is simply selfish and wrong.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com