What can I do to heal a broken heart.
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am a 29 year old women. My ex will be turning 43 in June.. We broke up in November, after bing together for almost five years. We lived togther and I moved out a month before breaking up. I miss him so much. He says he misses me and thinks about me allot. However, not even a month after breaking up he started dating someone, who is older and has four kids. I could not believe how quickly he replaced me. It hurts me to this day. He never calls me.. I find silly reason just so I can call him and talk to him. However, I have done pretty well with trying stop calling him.. I spoke to him one day for the first time in a month.. He told me he misses me and thinks about me allot. I don't understand how he can say those words to me and then be with this other women. I still love him... The only reason we broke up, is due to the fact that I wanted to marry him. He never wants to get married. My question is this: Is there hope for us? Or, is it definitly over. I think he still loves me but not enough to come back to me. He has hurt me so much. At one time I was his entire life and now he ignores me, replaced me and has fogotten me. What can I do to heal a broken heart. I am still angry with him for wasting so much of my time but I still love him.. I am so confused...
My god. Did you live with my ex-husband?? He and I were married for 11 years and I asked for a divorce. Not more than two months went by and he found the new love-of-his-life. Even though I was the one who broke it off, and he was totally surprised and hurt by it, saying he'd love me forever, he went and found someone to replace me pretty darn quickly.
Yes, it stings that he could get over me like I meant nothing to him. When I talk with him about it, though, he says he still loves me but that he's moving on with his life and she's now the be-all and end-all for him.
Now, how does this relate to your situation? Well, pretty closely I think. It's a matter of getting over how quickly he moved on. First, rebound relationships rarely last so you can reassure yourself that this one's most likely doomed, and second, he probably does still love you but he won't have you take that part in your life again. It hurts, I know. But you have to move on yourself and find someone who will be part of your life and complete you.
I wish you the best!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com