She's Taking a Break
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
So me and my girl have been taking a break, initiated by her, for over a month and a half now. She said it was only supposed to be temporary, and it had nothing to do with me. She said she just had some things she needed to work out. We had been together for over a year. She still calls almost every day, just to talk and tell me what shes up to.
We are home on xmas break, and now that shes away from school she says shes ahvin the time of her life because she doesn't have to deal with the bullshit she had to deal with at school. She has called every night for the past week and a half, and tells me how shes been out ot the bar with all her friends. She tells me that so and so tried to kiss her, or another guy asked her out, or another tried to take her home.
Why is she telling me this? I ask her and she says "I'm just telling you whats goin on." So I say "whata re you out flirtin with all these guys" and she says no, and she doesnt mean to if she is. Whats the deal with this. She tells me she misses me...but why is she telling me these things and how could I go about getting her bacK?
It does sound like she's trying to make you jealous, to tell you that other people are actively interested in her. She probably likes to hear that you still care about her and this is her way of proving to herself that you are still fond of her. Which isn't very nice of her, but people do these things.
I would get back to her when you're both off break and ask to date again. Dating doesn't necessarily mean that you see each other constantly. People who are married can easily go off to work for 3 months or more and don't call it a "break in their marriage". They're still married, they just are apart for a while. So there's no reason that you guys can't keep dating. If she agrees, then you go from there. If she does NOT agree, it's time to sit down and ask her why. If there's something wrong in the relationship, you need to address it and work on it. You can't just ignore it and hope it fixes itself or goes away on its own.
-- from Jenn
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