My wife does not trust me, i have not cheated, we both cheated on our ex's but not each other.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My wife does not trust me, i have not cheated, we both cheated on our ex's but not each other. She searches for my pin codes, e-mail access, eventhuogh I give them to her she still checks every morning. Why does she not trust me?
She doesn't want to get hurt again. She's afraid that your previous behavior will reoccur and she doesn't want to be on the receiving end of it. It shakes the relationship to have her constantly suspecting you of cheating on her. I strongly recommend going to counselling to learn how to open up to one another and give each other the full trust that should belong between a husband and wife. She needs to learn to have faith in you and believe in you.
Sit down with her and ask what it would take for her to trust you. What would it take her to release the jealousy that she has in her so that you two can have a more meaningful relationship. Tell her how you feel about always being under the microscope. Get her to see that her attitude is causing you pain and maybe she'll be open to seeing how she can change.
I wish you luck!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com