I have fallen in love with my best guy friend.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My question has to deal with me personnaly. Over the past couple of years I have fallen in love with my best guy friend. I have had only one boyfriend(ever) since I started being friends with him but my relationship ended because I was always comparing him to my best friend. I have tried getting advice from the people I trust most and now I need more help. The problem is that he has a girlfriend and they are happy and all I ever what is for him to be happy but for some reason I can't get him out of my head. I am able to know about things before he even tells me I can tell things about what is going on that his girlfriend cannot. I cry when he does and laugh when he does with out even thinking when his girlfriend does not.....what ever type of day he is having that it how my day is. Every time I hear his voice it makes me feel so happy inside. His smile brightens up my day. And I just don't know what to do I have tried giving up and forgetting it but I can't several times I thought I was over him but the truth is I fell even further in love. I know he cares about me because I was the only one who was there by his side through thick and thin and he has told me that if it were not for me he would not know what would have happened to him. My question to you is what am I to do? Please help me.
There's no easy answer to this. You obviously get a lot out of the relationship you have right now so leaving him and never seeing him again obviously won't work. So it's how do you deal with seeing him every day knowing you can't have him. I know it's hard. You'll just have to cope with it, unfortunately. Recognize your feelings and comfort yourself in thinking that you're his best friend, which is more than his girlfriend has.
Good luck with this!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com