I found my boyfriend in a hotel room with another girl this morning
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
This is my situation. I found my boyfriend in a hotel room with another girl this morning. We have been together for 5-1/2 years and this isn't the first time I have caught him. I know he loves and I always seem to forgive him, but this time I don't want to. I have not been able to trust him since the first time, so I know now I will never trust him again. We have been living as a married couple for years now, so we have certain financial ties, so it is not like I can totally forget him. How do I make myself be strong and not let him back into my life, and how do I stop loving him?
You can't stop loving someone just because you want to. That's the big problem. But what you can do is love them and know that you're just not going to stay with them. You can love him while you pack his stuff into boxes. You can love him while you put the phone bill back into your name. It'll hurt, but every time you feel hurt, just remind yourself that you're worth more than what he's done to you, and that you'll be free to find a new love that will give you what you need.
I feel for you, and I hope you get through this with as little hurt as possible. But you're doing the right thing, as you know, so that may help a little.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com