its been a really long time since i've liked somebody

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its been a really long time since i've liked somebody. It took me a long time to get over my last relationship just with everything that happend and how it ended and i took myself out of "the game" as people like to call it. But i forgot what those feelings felt like till recently. There is this guy in one of my classes and we've been friends all year and just casual flirting back and forth i guess you could say until he got a girlfriend. But that was awhile ago. Now were both single. And i found that we are flirting a lot more. And he always says "we should chill sometime" and asked me for my number. He's just a super nice guy and i really like him. But im to afraid to tell him this because although it seems like he feels the same way back what if he doesnt? I dont know what to do because he's always saying "when girls like me they never come out and tell me so thats why alot of the girls that like me never go out with me" or something along those lines. But he also said "you really have no idea buti am positive someone likes you but im not saying" Am i just completely blind or do i actually have a chance? But the only problem is he's a huge stoner. Thats his life outside of school. In school he's a great guy and we talk outside of school on msn nothing big. but i've had problems in the past with guys like that. Im not into that scene. I dont think its cool. so thats somehow affecting me in not telling him how i feel.
can you please help!!!
thanks so much!!!! Advice
He's not going to change his behavior for you, and if he's a stoner then you should want no part of it, particularly since you know already that you're not into that scene. It's a shame he's such a cool guy, you'd wish that he would change for you. But he won't. And that's the bottom line, so unfortunately you're going to have to enjoy him as a friend and find someone new to fall in love with.

Good luck!


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