I am in love with two men
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
I am 4l year old single,working,woman.I am in love with two men.One man is a widower and the other one is married.My widower guy has a lot of problems with alcohol,depression,diabetes,etc.He also has difficulties with his family.My married guy is very sweet in nature and checks on me to see if I'm ok.I haven't been sexually involved with the married one because I know that he is married and I would never break up a marriage.His wife is a sweet lady and I would never hurt her.My widower and I have been intimate few times.My widower is a hot and cold person.Sometimes,he acts like he really cares about me and other times,he behaves like he couldn't care about me or my feelings.I LOVE both of these men very much and would be heartbroken if anything happened to either one of them.Is it possible to love more than one guy at a time?My widower says that he LOVES me,but,he just has a lot of problems right now.I think he is afraid to really care for a woman right now.He also told me that he has done things to his wife in the past that he isn't proud of.I believe that my widower guy is feeling guilty for hurting his wife years ago.I think that my married guy loves me in his own way,by the little things he does,such as calling me and cheering me up when I'm down.I haven't seen this problem on your website.Should I be friends with BOTH of them or drop the married one? Thank you
You should drop the married one since there's no way that that relationship will go further. You can keep him as a friend but don't let it get into a romantic swing. That would be bad.
The widower sounds like he's a basket case and you might want to reconsider dating him because he has multiple problems that will take a lot of coping to handle. I don't know if you want to sign up for that sort of relationship.
Yes, of course you can love more than one guy at a time. Just you should think of whether they're the right people or not. It sounds to me like these two guys are not your best picks and you should find someone single and waiting for you.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com