We have problems trusting each other because of the fear of the other one cheating
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Okay I met this wonderful man a while ago. I had a fiancee that cheated on me with up to 30 women (when I found out). He had an ex fiancee that cheated on him with his cousin. We both have had cheating partners the whole time we have been with anyone in the past. We have problems trusting each other because of the fear of the other one cheating... I have come around to trusting him but he is still having problems progressing... Is there any thing or way or maybe a little idea that I can use to show him that I am willing to fully commit to him and him only?
I get a -lot- of emails from people who are cheating, or whose partner is cheating, so it's unfortunately a very common occurrence. As you know.
The only way to prove worthiness is to continually prove it. Unfortunately you know that this is frustrating when you know that you will not cheat, and you're proving something won't happen. It'll just take time for him to come around, as you have.
I recommend open honesty in all dealings, not just regarding cheating. If you're caught out in a lie about what you bought from the store, it will provide fodder for him thinking that you're lying about other things as well. And the same with him. But with total honesty, and as the months pass, you both will become more comfortable with the commitment and will trust one another in this and all other matters.
I wish you the best.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com