My husband let me fool around with another woman
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am a woman and married. The other day my friend came over (also woman), we had planned to drink together. We did and we both got drunk. later that night we were in my room talking while my husband was in the living room. I have always been sexually attracted to her and that night even more so, anyways I left her in the room and went and asked my husband if I could be with her sexually. He more than agreed. So, I messed around with her. She is always flirty with me but when it came to us messing around she kept saying this is wrong but, she aloud me to play with her. Her not returning the favor. We stop and later talked about it. She said she didn't feel right. I feel it is because she tries to be a religious person.
So, now I am confussed if she is attracted to me and isn't ready or she is just flirty with me. I am not sure what to do. She acts like she wants to be with me but when it came to it she said she didn't but, she allowed me to do it. My husband and I would lke her to be sexual with us but, we are not sure if she does. Even though she acts like it. Is she just not ready to actually do it yet? Or what is going on? Help.
For a lot of people, their first experience at having sex with the same sex partner is a lot to process. They have to readjust how they think of themselves and what it means about them in the future. Suddenly they're no longer 'straight'.
The only way you'll find out how your friend is feeling is to ask her outright. Find out what she thought of it and if she would want to do it again in the future. Tell her you want her to be comfortable with whatever she decides, and honor her decision if she says no.
If you are serious about wanting to find a partner for you and your husband, you can try alt.com which is a sexy-dating site that would have people who are interested and attracted to the idea.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com