there were some new guys numbers in her phone book

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Me and my ex split up 3 months ago and we have been back in touch with each other, seeing each other to.we are still in love but are takin it very slow incase it dont work.she staid over of saturday night and i could not help but to have a glance through her mobile phone book.there were some new guys numbers in there so i asked who they were.she said they were one of her girlfriends friends.Deep down i totally trust her always have but i cant help myself to keep askin if she likes them or fancyies them.she keeps sayin no and says i will make myself worse by keep askin all these questions and to learn to listen to sufferin from depression an stress.You think my questioning is connected to my illness?only started tablets a week ago.scared of losing her so have to always ask to keep myself right.think about this all the time.hard to concentrate on other things. Advice
Your girlfriend would not be working toward a closer relationship if she were out with other guys, and you know this. You need to let go of your jealousy and your worrying. One thing about depression is that you tend to fixate on ideas that make you sad, because that's how you're used to feeling and the minute you start feeling better, your body panics because it doesn't know how to handle it... so it finds reasons for you to feel miserable, just like you always have been. So when you start questioning her faithfulness, think to yourself that you know it's not true and that you will enjoy the bubbling happiness (or normality!) that you're starting to experience. Don't ruin the relationship just so you can feel horrible. Learn to enjoy life again!

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