i really cant live without her
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year and a cople of days so we decided to celebrate outr one year anniversary through this year we had plenty of brakes up and make up and i guess she got tires of it. she said that we are two differnt people and that she doesnt know what she wants in life . considering that she gonna be a teacher and have a family and all that good stuff. Being teenagers we do things that teenagers would do like kiss and the whole 9.Even though she was christen and had belief not doing that type of stuff until she got married she regret everthing we did together sexual wise. I took her grand father to past away for her to notice that "she was doing stuff she could'nt do to get in the house of the lord. I just think that she taking this grown up thing to serious and that she needs just relax and be herself. Because i really cant live without her she's to close for me and i really cant picture her or me with anyone else so what should i do to get her back?
It sounds to me like she is having a conflict between her wants and desires and her religious upbringing. This is not an easy thing to conquer, and she can only settle it herself. It sounds like she wishes that she had refrained from the sexual activity and now she's feeling guilty. One thing you can point out to her is that the way into the house of the lord is to repent, and once she repents then she's clear to get in without a problem. And she can continue to have a relationship with you without crossing those boundaries again. If you can handle that, that is. If not, then you need to find someone new because she will always have this difficulty with doing the things that most teenagers do.
For the rest, of course people are different and of course you two won't know what you want to do with your lives for years to come. That's just part of being human. People in their 30s don't know what they want out of life either. That won't change anytime soon. So in the meantime, yes enjoy yourselves and enjoy being teenagers. The time will come soon enough for you to make the decisions that will impact your lives, and if you make the wrong decision, you can always change the direction of your life. People do it all the time.
-- from Marc
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