i realy want to dump him

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ok im going out with a guy and i realy want to dump him because i dont know if i can trust him because he looks like a drug head but he says he isnt but all the people at school is telling me he is and since i haven been there to long i dont know who to trust his cousin even saud he smokes and i asked him about this and he said he didnt and that he just said he did so he would be accepted by a particular crowd well if he hass to be a drug head to hang out with them i dont want him hanging out with them and i also find that crowd he hangs out with totaly wierd and it bothers me alot and i dont want to tell him not to hang out with those people because i dont want to be mean bu ti know that if he hangs out with them then he will eventually turn bad and all his friends are talkin crud about me and saying i do stuf but i dont and im a goody goody and i have never had sex and i have never said a cuss word and im not going to i just don like having people give me a bad reputation when im not even doeing anyhting so i want to dump him because he is just giving me alot of stress and everytime i go to dump him he buys me a present like he new i was gonna try to dump him and says hey i got u something and i just dont know what to do i realu want to dump him but he can also be realy sweet help

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It doesn't matter if your guy is sweet if it's wrecking your reputation by hanging out with him. It sounds like either the guy is a drughead or that he hangs out with them. And as you point out, he's hanging out with the wrong crowd and so it'll just drag him down.

You say you want to break up with him but every time you try he gets you gifts. You shouldn't allow yourself to be bought like this. You should tell him thanks but no thanks, this is it. And then stick by your statement. Find new friends, find new people to hang with that don't include him. Don't answer his calls, don't IM him, tell him to leave you alone.

Then you will be free to date someone who will care about you enough to care about the impression others are getting of you. And will care enough about himself that he doesn't need to lie in order to get people to like him.

Good luck!

-- from Marc
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