I am so confused.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey, this is the second time in two days i have wrote to you. Ok, so i have told you about my depression, which i am dealing with slowly but shorly. Anyway, so my girlfriend has a real hard week at college. Coming in around 10 every night. I have been sending her text messages without any reply (whcih gets to me sometimes). I call her wednesday night to see how she is because i understand she got a stressful week. She was real tired and so was i. I was trying to arrange time with her on the weekend but all i ever get is "i'll let u know" I thought ok she said that she would call move on to another subject. I really needed to tell her something tonight, i recieved some bad news and needed to tell someone but i was scared as hell to tell the person i love more than anything about this problem. So i dont tell her. Also, she is one of the most disorganised people i know, shes never on time for anything and due to this her life is a rush, this effects her and everyone around her. Now because of this sending a text message is like climbing a mountian for her but she dont realise how much a text message can mean, and i very rarely get one unless i send one first or if i call her first. As i said before we have just got bk together after a split and this is 2weeks in. I have been thinking to myself should i try not calling or texting her and hope this would kinda force her to call me but also ive been thinking THIS IS ONLY 2WKS INTO A FRESH START MAYBE I SHOULD JUST MAKE ME THE CENTRE OF MY WORLD RATHER THAN HER. I am so confused.
P.s thanks for your previous advise
It sounds like life is very chaotic for the two of you, so much so that you're in a tailspin and she's overwhelmed. Don't break up for these reasons. Give it time, let things smooth themselves out and in the summer when things are calmer, then you can make a judgment whether to continue the relationship or not. Don't hang on her every word, you yourself said that it's tough for her to make the contact because her life's a wreck right now. Don't take it personally that she's not available for you. Just give it time. It will all work out for the best. And consider bringing her to your counselling sessions so that she can know what you are going through.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com