I suffer with depression and it split us up
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey there. I am currently in a relationship of 2 and a half years with my girlfriend. I suffer with depression and 3wks ago it split us up. We got back together and are taking things real slow, starting new. When we split up i was able to think clearer than i had been in the last 2years. I think this is because i was in danger of loosing something so dear to me. Since then i have found a new sense about myself, i am starting to move forward, it's slow going but it's in the right direction. Now the thing that still plagues me is jeliousy. My girlfriend told me 2 days ago that she doesn't get jelious of me becasue she trusts me so much and because of that i really envy her. I never used to get jelious of anyone and the only person i get jelious of is my girlfriend, for reasons i don't know why. I think it's due to my depression, i think this is because despite all of her problems in her life shes getting on with her life i have let it comsume me and control me and keep me confined to my bedroom. She has everything that i used to have, which is not her fault of course. I just see my strength in her of what i used to have. The only time i get really jelious of her is when goes to a party, clubs (i hate clubs) or she tells me she is staying out late, i don't know why this triggers me off. If she goes anywhere else it doesn't really bother me. Any advise you can give would be great. I don't like feeling like this and i don't to be this way anymore, i am starting to despise myself,
Knowing that you are going through a depression, you should know that going to a counsellor or getting medications for this is really the best answer. Everything else will fix itself once you fix yourself. Your jealousy that she can do things you can't, your envy of her strength and vivancy of life, these will go away when you overcome the depression in your life.
Good luck, and my thoughts are with you!
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com