We got on so well in the first five weeks
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
met a guy eight weeks ago, he's a staff nurse im a student. We got on so well in the first five weeks, we flirted with each other, he would often touch my neck, draw my attention, sit opposite or beside me, gave me the impression he did like me. we were always having a laugh together. he was also very nice to me too, making sure i was okay and telling me i was doing well. i had a gut instinct that something would happen between us. then overnight (literally) he changed with me, after the day before being attentive and flirting, he wouldnt really look at me, became nervous and fidgety around me and when i spoke to him he seemed disinterested, he did include me when having a laugh and seemed to loosen up as the day ended. However when i next worked with him he was definately off with me, spoke differently to me - formal almost. I am not atall aware i had done anything to cause this and certainly didnt change my behavoir or 'come on' to him atall. later in the day another colleague asked him if i had done anything wrong. he changed immediately back to himself, calling me to another room and gently telling me nothing was wrong, if there was he would tell me, then started joking around with me again. There was definately something up with him though but he wouldnt admit it. this was my final week, and on the last day i worked with him i told him i would be in a different room from him, his face did drop and a while later heard him asking why I was in a different room, hinting i may be able to change rooms. at the end of the day we hadnt spoken much so i approached him and said i didnt think i would see him the next day (different shifts and it was my last day there). he replyed 'maybe maybe not', but was smiling and i got such good vibes from him I felt it intuitively that he did really like me. The next day i left him a note with my number asking him for a drink. this was two weeks ago, he hasnt called , i know from that I should perhaps 'take a hint' but last week on the grapevine i heard he had been seeing a girl, which started just as i met him 8 weeks before, he kept it from everyone, but had now spoken of her saying hed decided to end it. He has so much confused me and I still believed he felt something for me, if you can give me any advice about this i would be much appreciative - do you think he'll call after he has a think about it?? i know he's been hurt in the pastxx thanks
I would think that he's interested in you but was holding off because of his relationship with his girlfriend. If they in fact are broken up, then there's a shot that you will get that date that you want. If they aren't broken up then it's better for you not to get in the middle of an ugly situation.
I suggest that you find him again and ask him out for lunch. Then ask politely if there's anyone else in his life. Let him lead it from there.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com