i need help in understanding guys.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i need help in understanding guys. i notice that my boyfriend gets into his bad moods sometimes, and because of that he will avoid me for sometime. i always ask him why and assure him that if he has a problem, i am always willing to listen. but he always say "it's nothing", and refuse to tell me a single thing. when this happens, i start to feel down. i feel frustrated not being able to help him or at least get him to share his problem. does this mean that he does not trust me?
when i have a problem, he is the first person i seek help from, and he is always willing to help me find a solution or at least comfort me. why is it that he cant do the same? i dont like the idea of him bottling up all his emotions and problems to himself.
what should i do?
Guys do this. There's nothing you can do to change them, so just get used to it. Frustrating and annoying as it is, they keep everything inside and don't let it out and don't share, which annoys us women because we handle things completely differently and if we were to do what they do, we'd explode into sticky little bits. But guys handle things this way and seem to do ok.
The best thing to do is to wait until he's feeling talkative again and get him to talk about it then. Also, ask him to tell you what to do when he's starting on a downward spiral so that you can help him best and not make things worse. Hopefully he'll respond to this positively and it will bring you closer.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com