I Was Cheated On in the Past - How Do I Trust?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been cheated on in both of my previous, serious relationships. The first one was a year and a half the second was a couple years. Both of them cheated on me continuously.
Now, I have been with my current guy for 3 years and he has not given me a reason not to trust him, he is a great person. But I cannot get over the past and let it go, therefore I feel like everyone is up to no good and that isnt fair to him. How do I get over my past and trust again?
This is REALLY really common and I have two answers for you. First, I have a number of pages on this site about jealousy as well as an ebook on it. Go through them, read them and really work on it. Make it a serious priority in your life. But if you just can't do it on your own, go to a therapist or minister or SOMEONE. You can't just let this ride. This will literally water-torture your relationship into distruction if you let that lack of trust keep going along. Trust is the key foundation of any relationship. If you just can't bring yourself to trust, it is critical that you get that resolved, before it's too late.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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