My Boyfriend Always Lies
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my bf for a year. He lies constantly.
He had told me he wasn't married and had no children first, then it turns out he is married and does have children.
He has cheated on me several times with his (now separated wife) and lied to me about that.
Every time he lies to me he then goes on the offensive and starts questioning me about my past sexual history. He says he doesn't know me and that i've lied to him regarding how many partners i've had and that I had always practiced safe sex.
I find myself defending myself for my past that had nothing to do with him. He insist that i'm lying and that he cannot be with me because in his mind he says i've lied to him and been dishonest.
This gets me so angry, because it is HIM who constantly lies to me about things now and it is HIM who has cheated on me and tried to cover it up.
What's wrong with him? OMG What's wrong with me?
The MOST important thing you can have in any relationship is trust. You can count yourself lucky that so far you haven't gotten any disease - but what happens when he comes home with a sexual disease that seriously makes you sick or kills you? This isn't just a casual problem you can ignore. He is lying to you about the most core issues you can possibly have in a relationship.
You only have one life. I know it's hard to make a fresh start - but what you have right now can never last. He's going to keep lying - and he's going to at some point lie about something so serious it causes you financial harm or medical harm. Don't wait for it to get to that point.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com