what I used to feel has faded
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
We've been together for 1.5yrs, and even though we did break up once we've managed to pull through. The thing is what I used to feel has faded, that 'connection' is gone. When I'm with him I feel hollow inside. I'm not sure if it's just a phase, perhaps my feelings for him will return? We enjoy spending time together, I appreciate his company but nowadays I'm slightly uncomfortable when he shows physical affection. Will my feelings for him return? I can't figure out why they've faded. We've spoken about it, and we've agreed to work it out but I'm in doubt as to whether I should even bother. What if it never comes back anyway?
Everyone's feelings shift and change during a relationship, and it seems like you're hit with it now. The loss of passion in a relationship is very common, and horrible to go through. One suggestion I have to fall back in love is to go do those things you did when you first met, whether it's going backpacking, out for a picnic, to a movie, or necking in the car. Look at him again as you did when you first started. Relive the reasons why you wanted to go out with him in the first place. If you can stir those coals into a flame, then you're all set.
The thing you have to ask yourself is "is this enough?". If you continue to lack these feelings, are you comfortable enough in the relationship that you can live with it or do you feel those feelings are so key to a relationship that you need to move on? Those are questions only you can answer.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com