troubled by her history with others
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I've been with this really good girl for 7 months. I love her alot and all and she really is a good girl. She's still a virgin and all but she's my first real girlfriend. The thing that bothers me is she was with a guy for 6 months who treated her like crap and they performed in "dry humping" together. Though me and her did this I thought it was because we fell in love with each other because she said that I'm her first love. When I found out she did this activity with another guy it truely and deeply bothers me. We started going at it very early in our relationship and it makes me wonder how early she started with that guy. I try to forget it but it also bothers me that I haven't had that kind of action from someone else and she has. So I'm stuck with two problems: Being bothered of her past, and not having a past. I don't know what to do.
First off, anyone that you date will have some kind of a past. You'll just have to accept it and cope with it. That she's in love with you is a great thing and that she did activities with others before you doesn't matter at all... you have her love and that's the important piece.
Do you want to go screwing around with some other chick in order to have a past? I didn't think so. Don't worry about your not having a past... you're there with her and there for her. You're creating a past right now, with her. Which is exactly where you want to be.
Good luck and let us know how it's turning out.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com