Keeping a Teenage Love Alive
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
im a 16 year old guy, and well, ive been up and down on your site, and found that most advices about keeping the love alive is mostly based on married couples. me and my g/f dont live together yet, but i would really love to get some advise on how to keep a relationship alive, cuz right now my love life is dropping, like a dead rose, when it is not watered! is there anything i can do to make her feel good about the relationship? My g/f is a perky girl, shes also picky. i cant get her anything big, because, shes too embarrased to carry around school.
Actually most tips on the site should work well for not-living-together couples as well as living-together ones, you just have to adjust them for the situation. Keeping a relationship alive is all about reminding each other that you're there and care for each other. It is NOT about buying things! Money can't buy you love :)
So do things to remind her you're there and thinking of her. Drop notes in her locker. Write her little poems - Haiku are great because they're easy. They're just 5-7-5 syllable combinations like
Every morning you
brighten my day, and I can't
stop thinking of you
So make up some "special traditions" that you two share, like a haiku a day, or drawing flowers to sign your notes, or sending her email messages a certain way. Ask her what her favorite clothing item of yours is and then wear it occasionally pointing out you wore it for her. Find a song that is "your song" and play it on the CD player when you're together. Find a restaurant that is "your restaurant" with your special dessert and share it when you go there.
Anything you can do to create things that are special for you two are great. All of those shared memories you build are important. Those little touches each day to say "I'm thinking of you" keep the relationship going. Show interest in her world, learn more about her hobbies, learn how to do them yourself! The more you grown and learn together, the less likely you'll grow apart.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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