hes a senior and i'm a freshmen
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
ok, there is this guy..hes a senior and i'm a freshmen. we met truough one of his close friends, he thought i was cute, and i felt the same for him. so one day when i was at my friends house, her boyfriend, who is his friend that we met through, called her up & said me u D- and J- are all gonna go to the mall today, so we were like ok awesome!! but the problem with all this was that hes in an almost 5 month relationship with a senior girl. but, we went to the mall, hung out and had an awesome time. afterwards we went home and we all watched a movie. during the movie we held hands, and he had his arm around me, and we were flirting SO bad. he told matt that he had feeligns for me. later that night while i was at home, he text messaged me, and we talked for a while. he told me that he liked me and that he thoguht i was a really cool girl. i told him i liked him too...we talked on the phone for the next 4-5 nights and we were already using pet names like baby and sweetheart and stuff like that.everything was going so great. then that thursday i went to HIS house that he will be moving into for college and helped him paint. we flirted a lot the entire time and had a really fun time. WE NEVER KISSED THOUGH AND STILL HAVENT. so we never really "cheated" or did we? but that saterday, i went to my brothers girlfriends house. my brother is a senior at my same school, and his girlfriend is also a freshmen. but i spent the night over there, and i left my cell phone on her charger...my borther went through my phone..and saw that we had been calling eachother and texting eachother.he got PISSED. so he decided that he would call his girlfriend!!!!!!!! he told her that we had been "messing around" and she cried her eyes out. they never broke up though. J- was so mad and told me that we couldnt talk anymore and he said to let fate take its course and it will happen one day..i was so upset and cried myslef to sleep. but a few days later he game me a rubberband that had the lyrics to "the reason, by hoobastank" on it. it was all like i'm sorry that i hurt you..blah blah blah. and we started talking again..but never hung out since then. then about 2 weeks later, his girlfriend went through his phone and saw that i had called..she was all like why is htis bitch calling you and he said i dont no i didnt answer..which he really didnt, but he did call back. so he told me once again that we had to let things cool off and that my # absoulutly CANNOT be on his phone or things will get bad..so i havent talked to him 4 a week now. there senior trip is comin up next weeekend, and he told me that he was going to break up with her after that and that thats the reason he hasnt yet was bc he didnt want to ruin her senior trip(they are staying in the same room), but i honestly dont know if i should wait on him..i mean i like him so much and i all i want is to be with him..and i can see myself dating him..but is he worth waiting on throuhg all this???? and what if he never breaks up with her, and i waited on nothing, WHAT SHOULD I DO??? PLEASE HELP ME!!!! A.S.A.P!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wait until he breaks up with her, don't try to do anything until then because he's already made it clear that he'll side with her all the time. If they do break up, then he's already made it clear he likes you so you do have a chance at him.
The bigger picture, though, is that he's moving on to college, and that's a huge shift for people and most likely he will find other college students to go out with, so your relationship with her is going to end. Are you comfortable with that? Do you want him so badly that you'll have a two-month relationship that's then going to break apart?
Good luck with this, and let us know how it all works out.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com