My Girlfriend is Lying to Me
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I think my girfriend is been lying to me for a while now and a couple of days ago I actually caught her on a lie.We are not talking kids here...She's 35 and I'm 38!!!
We been dating for over 3 months now and I don't know how to feel about it after knowing that she lied to me.
You know,you develop this kind of a "six sense" that tells you deep inside your heart when something it's not right...
After spending all day together i took her home around 8:30pm and before we got to her house I ask her if she was planning on going out or pick up her kid or what she was going to do.
She said,No,I'm not going out.I'm going to stay home.So.I believe her and went home.
Later on,when I was on my way to work,around 12:30am,I had this strange feeling telling me that something was not right...
Needless to say,I went to the pool hall we usually go to play and,guess what?,There she was with her niece and some "old" friend playing pool with her.
When I shoed up and stood right in front of them she did like I wasn't even there and kept talking to her "friend"!!!!
I had to step in and call her on the side and she just replied with;"What's up?"
like I was nobody.She didn't even introduce me to her "friend"...Why?
Why she lied to me in the first place about going out?
If he is only a friend,Why she didn't even introduce me as her boyfriend,etc...?
When we talk outside she even told me something like;"...we are just barely dating for 3 months now and you want to know everything...it's too early for that" "I'm not doing anything wrong"
This friend,like she calls him,called her and they met at the pool hall.She tells me that she hasn't seen this guy in a long,long time but he got her cell phone that she just got a month ago???
I need advice,ANYBODY,please!
The most important thing you can have in a relationship is trust. You have to rely on the person you're with to be honest with you, and to listen to what you have to say.
Let's say we give this woman the benefit of the doubt and say that she went home planning on staying home - but while she was sitting there her "friend" called her and talked her into going out. But even if we say that that happened, when you showed up she should have been pleased to see you and immediately explained and invited you into the group. Instead she was incredibly rude and ignored you - and treated you less than a friend would get treated.
THAT was doing something wrong - and if she can't even treat you nicely when you are in the courtship stage, it's only going to get worse. Find someone who you can respect - now and in the future.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com