I Want My Ex - He's Happy With Another
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I told you how this guy acted like he still liked me and you told me you thought he probably did. Well I went to a b-day party and both him and his girlfriend were there. He was being really funny and cute the whole time. Except he was sitting by her the wholetime and flirting with her. One of my friends told him a couple of weeks ago that I didn't like him anymore, which is a complete lie, and then he started dating his new girlfriend. Everytime I see them together I want to cry. I really want to talk to him about how my friend lied telling him I didn't like him, and I want to tell him how I feel. But everytime I see him I never get the chance, and I'm usually really nervous. He also acts like he really likes his g/f now that he thinks I don't like him anymore. What should I do, should I tell him how I feel, and how could I tell him if I do?
One of the most important things you can have with any other person is friendship. That's especially true with someone you want to be romantic with. So before you can go talking about deeper emotions with this guy, you have to be able to TALK to him and it doesn't seem like you can do that.
So work on being a friend with him, if you really do like him as a person. You shouldn't do this just to "get him for yourself" - you should really care about him as a person and his happiness. Sometimes girlfriends come and go. If you are there and really care about him, you are the one he will turn to. But you must also accept the possibility that he will be happy with his new girlfriend - and if that is the case you must support him and be his best friend.
Sometimes love is about wishing someone the best happiness they can have, even if they found it with someone else.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com