Doesn't 2.5 yrs mean anything?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i had been with my girlfriend for two and a half years. we did everything together, go on vacations with each other's families, we talked every night on the phone for hours, we knew every detail in each other's life. we both went to seperate high schools (she went to an all girls school, i went to a public high school). our relationship was the best thing i could imagine. she was my best friend, and i was hers. but a couple months ago, things started to turn sour. i was acting very distant to her (i think i started to take what we had for granted) and it hurt her really bad. we began to fight constantly, and make up the next day. things were very confusing, this was the first time in a long time i had felt distant from her. she had no trust in me anymore. so one night, she had a social function at her school and she met another guy. i guess they hit it off, because that night she told me she wanted to break up because things were not going well with me. i agreed, hoping it would be maybe a week long thing that wouldn't last. well, i have realized all the mistakes i have made, and now she "wants her space". she told me not to call her, if she wants to talk to me she will call me. she is taking this new guy to prom with her, instead of me. i consider this a personal betrayal... my best friend and lover of two and a half years. how could she do this to me? even if i was acting like a jerk. so at this point it's been three weeks since we broke up and i am a complete mess. i miss her so much. she tells me she still loves me, but she can't be with me right now. and meanwhile she is daating this other guy. i've been trying to just give her her space... hoping she'll realize what we have and come back. what should i do? can she really throw away everything we had? she knows i love her to death... i guess she just can't trust me right now. how do i get my soulmate back?
You have a clear idea of the situation. It's a shame it got to this point. Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do, she's moving on with her life and you should too. I understand how painful this is for you. You'll need some time to get over this because it's been such a strong part in your life. Instead of looking at all you've lost, start building up a new life that doesn't include her. Join in groups, volunteer at a local non-profit. Make new friends and immerse yourself in new activities. Slowly over time the hurt will fade and you'll remember her with fondness.
Good luck, my thoughts are with you!
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com