How do I get this relationship going?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hello, I asked this guy friend of mine today that I have a crush on to go out for a drink together sometime, and he said "Oh Wow, I really can't go right now, because I'm so busy with school right now, studying for certifications and working on projects, but after school is out, we can get together and go for coffee, but when he said it, he kinda acted like he wanted to avoid the issue, (he is a very shy guy by the way). I also even asked him what he's doing this weekend, and he said "Oh,I'm so busy studying, I have to study all the time just to understand what we're studying". Now I'm wondering if I should've said anything to him at all, because I would rather have him tell me the truth if he didn't feel the same way rather than have him lie to me and him not feel the same way. Any Advice?? Thank you. Ps. My friends are telling me I'm reading way too much into his answer.
I'd go with your friends on this one. This guy sounds like he's just very busy and if he's shy on top of that, then he may feel very awkward about agreeing to go out with you. Start small. Say that you want to study with him. Ease into a friendship and work it from that side. Take it slow and help him get over the shyness and you'll have a really decent relationship.
Best of luck to you!
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com