I Drove Him Away - I Want Him Back
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Well it all started a year ago when I was bound and determined I was not going to attend my Junior Prom. I was set dead against it but my friends finally convinced me to go. My intentions were to ask a guy out of town but my mom suggested a local guy seeing that he would be closer. When I asked him about it he seemed really excited and said "YES." I had no idea that he liked me until a few days later when my friend told me the news. She said he wanted to know if I would consider dating him. Although I didn't really like him in that way I figured he would be someone to hang out with from time to time. So when he asked me I said "yes." We dated for about four months but I never really liked him all that well. It finally got to the point I just ignored him altogether. One day he asked if I just wanted to be friends and I was sooo happy! After that he tired to get us back together but I just ignored him and talked badly about him to my friends. Two months after we broke up he got a new girlfriend and I was even happier! This meant he would finally leave me alone and stop stalking me! After being split up for seven months I realize I lost the best thing that ever happened to me. Not only is he HOTT but he is also the sweetest guy with a great personality. I decided to write him a letter explaining to him the whole situation. He wrote back and told me he still loved me but only as friends. Also he said he was afraid it was too late to get back together because he had a girlfriend and they had been together for nine months. The week after he gave me the letter he and his girlfriend break up. He told a friend of mine he would have rather taken me to the Military Ball with him but couldn't because she had a dress and he felt bad about that. He has also been by my house to see me on various occassions, and he makes comments to my friends like: she was the best girlfriend I ever had, he protected my letters from his now ex, watched as I walked across school campus, wanted to know if I ever talked about us, and wears a necklace I gave him along with the letter everday! This week he decided to quit school but before he left he came by hugged me and told me to call him sometime. He didn't tell hardly anyone else goodbye. What does all this mean? Does he still like me? Is he playing hard to get? Is there a chance we could get back together? I know he said he thought it was too late but why did he break up with his girlfriend the next week?
First, you were pretty mean to him in the first place, to use him like that. A person isn't a toy. If you didn't want to date this guy, you should have broken the news to him gently and let him get on with his life. To just ignore him and hurt him was pretty cruel. You are VERY very lucky that he is even considering talking with you again.
Hopefully you have matured since then and realize how critically important a relationship is. If you are to have any chance again with him, you have to regain his trust and prove you have gotten more mature in how you deal with people. How can he know that you won't just do that to him again? It will take a lot of work, but it will be worth it if you can regain the trust of this wonderful person.
-- from Lisa
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