I said I love him... but he doesn't respond!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have written to this site previously..about whether or not to tell my boyfriend that I love him. Well I have decided to after a year of dating, I felt the time and circumstances were just right....and I told him I love him..and have been in love with him...all to which he broke down and said--I'm sorry i have dissapointed you!
Might I say..I was crushed!..still am...we broke up..got back together few days later..altho it is not the same now. it feels like I'm with a stranger..I dont know whether I should give it time..or just break it off for good?? I suggested some time apart..but he just says lets talk about it the following day, just says hes confused but doenst want to really talk about it. I'm in love with him..dont want to just let go..but dont want to hang on to someone who just donesnt know what he wants! I have been there before and do not wish to repeat my mistakes either.
Well, the bright side is that you know where he stands! He seems to be a very quiet guy who doesn't show his feelings out in the open. Sometimes people are just like that. He doesn't want to break up, that's a good sign. He wants to talk about it, he wants open communication with you, those are good things! I'd say to stick with it and see what develops. It's good that you said you love him, it lets him know where he stands with you. And you should be happy that he was upfront and honest instead of stringing you along. He's probably confused because he wasn't expecting you to say how you felt about him (some guys really are that clueless). Give him some time to work out what he feels, he might surprise you and let you know that he feels something similar, though he might not consider it love.
I know it from his side... I've been in a relationship for 6 months and he said he loved me first and I was totally shocked. I certainly cared for the guy and loved spending time with him, but wasn't prepared to say that I loved him. So I just thanked him and let it go at that. It was three weeks later when I printed out a birthday card for him and said in it "I love you too". It was a big step for me to do that, and a really scary one, even though I already knew how he felt. So don't give up on your guy, he may just be like me!
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com