I want more... does he?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Okay, here's my situation: I've got this guy who i've been friends with for about 3 years now. 2 years ago we dated for about 4 months. now he's going out with this girl (been about a year and a half) and she's cheated on him many many times (doublt digits). she told him after the last time that she didn't care if he fooled around with other people. so, me and him obviously still had a "soft spot" for eachother so we've kind of become "friends with benefits". his girlfriend doesn't know about it though...but there's more to it, because his girlfriend is kind of psycho/suicidal and he;s told me before that he wants to break up with her..and it's obvious that he wants to be with me. so here's my question: does his actions towards me mean that he wants to, at some point, make our thing more public and perhaps end the thing with his girlfriend that he has now..? because honestly, i really love him...
I see that he is in a relationship with her, but has you on the side. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like he's too eager to leave her, since he's stayed with her through her numerous affairs. And, since he has you as a friend with benefits, he has the best of both worlds. He doesn't have to do anything, he has it all. I suggest that perhaps you look for someone who's not attached to create a relationship with that is more meaningful than what you have here. I don't see this going further than it already has.
I wish you the best, and I hope you find the right guy for you.
-- from Marc
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