I know I did the right thing but it hurts!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
HELLO MY GIRL FRIEND IS 29 IM 32.. I work 2 jobs. she works a 9-5. we have been together for 2 years.. she came out a nasty realationship when i met her. i have been there for her in every aspect. i have helped her get jobs/ help her cook help her lanundry.. i show her i care.. between 2 jobs i work 7 days a week but weekends i get out of work at 2pm... which leaves us time to go to resturants & movies.. i met my girlfriend at a nyc club.. i am not a club person though it was a spur of the moment thing. we got intimate thereafter.. though the months she has been complaining that i don't take her to socialize in that atmosphere anymore.. We are now broken up and separated.. I was working so hard so that her and i could get a place of our own but i guess she gotten bored of the realationship. I LOVE THIS WOMAN.. She coudln't accept that i sacrificed my life for her for a better future. She now lives with her girlfriend who is going thru an ugly divorce.. we separated but still remained together. Now her girlfirend is takin her out to clubs and sneaking out and lieing to me that there home.. i have busted them leaving one night and confronted them both. We separted but where looking for a building to live becuase it was my familys house.. Today may 11 we had closure.. She started changing everyday for the past 3 weeks. LIke she doesn't care and continues to go out. She still sleeps with me though or untill today.. I feel she has met someone.. I tried to repair the realationship but i feel the new life with the girlfriend is appealing to her so being the girlfriend is miserable.. I closed it today becuase i feel my girlfriend is stringing me along now.. I can't eat or sleep. I feel totaly unappreciated and used now. i also feel she has met another man but i pysically can't see it. i just sense it. I am chalking up my loss now.. i don't know if i will ever see her again or hear from her. I LOVE HER SO MUCH I HAVE BEEEN IN TEARS FOR 3 WEEKS NOW.. PLEASE COMMENT BACK.
It sounds like you are a fine, upstanding man who is committed to making relationships work. Any number of women would fall all over you! I'm sorry that it hasn't worked with your girlfriend, and it sounds like you're on the road to recovering from it, but yes it is hell going through it. In time, it will fade, especially after you find the true love of your life who will give you all the caring and attention that you deserve.
I wish you the best, and please let us know how you are doing!
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com