We Fought - He Kicked Me Out
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years we just recently moved intogether 3 months ago. we were fighting alot about messes and the dog ect. just household stuff, but he started to degrade me and belittle me and so i became very bitchy towards him and he kicked me out one night. When i cam back to the house the locks were chnged . that was 3 weeks ago. He doesnt want me to live back with him any time soon but now he says he loves me and wants to still be togehter but he only sees me on the wekends and he just wants sex. he wont let me make plans with him , and when i ask him if we are gonn see each other he says maybe. he never gives me a straight answere. We live in seperate cities now and im afraid he has another girlfriend or that he is sleeping around cuz he only wants to see me on HIS terms and never during the week. Please help me i feel used and i feel like im waisting my time waiting around for him.
It really sounds like you two had serious issues together - that things were fine on a casual basis but not find on a permanent basis. That happens with a lot of couples. Definitely if his reaction was not to find a solution, but to kick you out and change the locks, he's just not ready for a mature relationship. And if he now just wants weekend sex from you, it proves it even further. I would tell him not to call until he's ready to be a real boyfriend, and prepare to find someone that is far more worthy of your time and affection.
-- from Lisa
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