My Boyfriend Doesn't Trust Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hi! I am 17 years old. My boyfriend is 22. We have been together six months and are really happy together. We have so much fun together and we love each other a lot. One thing that is really bothering me is.... I do not have too many friends. I have about 4 or 5 close friends and thats it. One of those is a guy friend who I met at work. He has a girlfriend but we are just really close friends. I actually look at him as a big brother cause we talk about everything. I have no feelings for him at all. He is just a good friend. Well my boyfriend does not like it when he calls me all the time or if he wants to go to the mall with me or something. He doesnt like my friend at all. He believes that my friend likes me. He told me it is not me that he doesnt trust that its him. I am not sure what to do. Is this normal?? Should he be jealous at all? Please answer asap. Thanks so much!!
It is critical that you tell your boyfriend to get his jealousy under control. Trust is the key in any relationship. You deserve to have male and female friends. If your boyfriend doesn't trust you with any man, where is this going to lead? You'll be trapped at home with no phone, unable to talk to any other male because you can't be trusted? It is your boyfriend's responsibility to support you fully and respect you, and that includes supporting your friends. If he is incapable of doing this because he is too insecure, that is something he needs to address. Do not give in on this - too many guys turn into controlling, domineering husbands because their girlfriends kept giving in little by little.
-- from Lisa
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