I Like Her - She Has a Boyfriend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
What do I do when i know a girl likes me and cares about me a lot, and has told me this. But has had a boyfriend for a year, even though i've know her longer and at one time we almost had something until both of us thought that the other one didn't like them. Now we are really close we are like a couple when we do things together, we haven't kissed since we first met, we talk about sex like its a regular thing, but we both agrees that it should happen at a time when it will mean something. I don't trust her at all. She has too many guy friends. What i'm going to have to do to show her the light, or how do i keep her intrested in me still, is jealousy the key? I want to be her main foucus how?
OK here's the thing - you are talking about sex with this girl and she HAS A LONG TERM BOYFRIEND. And you're talking about making her jealous?? Something is seriously wrong here. Are you really going to want to be with a girl who has already proven that she is willing to go around talking about sex with other guys? When she is with you, she's not going to change. She is the way she is. You are already upset about her talking with other guys, and she's not even dating you. She's dating someone else.
This girl is just not ready for a serious relationship. You have to accept that. Go find yourself a girl that IS willing to commit and is worth your affections. Maybe someday this girl will grow up - but you can't make her do it. So you need to give her time and get on with your own life.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com