How to Ask Someone Out
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hey I'm a male from Canada, and this is my first time I even tried this, hope you guys can help me. Anyways there's this girl I really like, we've dated a bit but not as b/f, g/f. We've gone to the movies once and we've gone to a school semi formal. Before the semi me, her, my best friend, and his date all went out to eat and we had a awesome time. During the dance it seemed that she tried to stay around me, even though her friends were off a little ways. The first few slow songs we danced but not a whole lot of emotion I think, like we were close but not really. But I noticed in the last few songs we danced she went from keeping her head close to mine to putting it on my shoulder, we held eachother a lot closer. I dunno if this is a sign that she's into me or what.
Also one of her best freinds knows how I feel about her and I was flirting online with her while her older sister and her friend were there, and she put stuff like babe and hun in the convo, so her older sister said "You Like Him Don't You?" and she didn't reply. I mention this because I would think if it's a no she would have said it, and a yes might be embarrasing in front of her sister.
Now what I'm asking is how I should proceed from here. We talk all the time online and sometimes on the phone, we're also in 2 of 4 classes of eachother in school and me, my friend,his date to semi,which is also the person I likes best friend, and the girl a like all sit together. She's never called me but whenever I'm online she starts convo like......heyyyyyyy, like that seems to be a bit of anthusism.
I'm not great with asking girls out, I'm 15 and I've had 1 or 2 girlfreinds, so asking her out is gonna be difficult if you suggest it. I just met her this year in high school, she went to another junior high before that, but we're really good friends, but I've fallen for her bigtime, and I wanna know if we're just friends or if she's interested in a relationship. Also if you suggest asking her out I'd like some suggestions on how to go about doing it. I was thinking of e-mailing her but I heard somewhere that's a bad idea. So please reply, I'm really on the ropes here because I think she's just the most awesome girl I've ever met.
I have a whole how-to on asking someone out -
It sounds like you have a great start by being happy talking together and spending time together. So just keep doing that and getting closer. Go out to movies, to grab food etc without it being really 'dating'. Just be great friends. At some point your normal hugging and chatting will get more snuggly, and the movies you go to will be more romantic, and your dinners together will be more quiet and soft. When you're at the point that your hugs turn into kisses, you'll have crossed the line into dating without the stress involved in a formal request.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com