Having a Hard Time
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
i have been with my girlfriend on and off for six years she in another state she cheated on with a friend of mine and she said some hurtfull thing like she hate me, we was over a lone time ago thing like that she broke up with me then after she had sex with him then she found out the he was just getting what we wanted from her and she all most got pregnant. after he found out she was not pregnant she wants to come back to me she says she made a mistake and feel real bad for what she did it. I want to be with her i forgive her for what she did but i am having a hard time to move on some of the things she said is still on my mind from not wanted to be with me too she in love with me is kind of hard to trust how can i put the past behind me and start a new life with her.
It's always hard to get over a betrayal, especially one like you mention here. She's done wrong by you and has asked your forgiveness but it's very normal of you to be unable to forget what she did. The only thing that will heal this is time and her continuing to show you that she's trustworthy. She doesn't need to keep saying sorry for what she did, but she does need to prove to you that she's never going to do it again.
What you can do is that every time this comes into mind, tell yourself, "that's done. We're onto something new" and over time it'll fade. But it will take a while.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com