She's Only 17
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I;m jealous of his female best friend cos they share secrets and it's a form of intimacy to me. what can i do about it cause it has been creating problems. also because we only got togteher a few days after he broke up with his ex, i still feel jealous of the ex. i often wonder wat it was about her that made him love her and more so cos she was only 16 and he was 22when they started and they ahd lasted for 2 n a half years.what can i do? i know it's unneccessary jealousy, but i really cannot help it and it's eating me inside.
Jealousy sucks, especially when it is unwarranted.
To answer one part of your question, you are wasting your time being jealous over your boyfriend's ex. She's gone. History.
Now onto the more important part of your question:
It's ok for him to have a best friend, regardless of gender. The key thing is whether or not he is sharing as much with you, if not more. I take from your email that he is not. That, given with the fact that he started seeing you a few days after his last relationship, makes me think that he was on the rebound and you caught him.
If your relationship does seem real, then I'd suggest telling him about how you feel without yelling or accusing. Nobody reacts well when they feel that their back has been put up against a wall.
If he is willing to open up more to you and take your feelings seriously, then you have something worth working on. If not, I'm afraid it'll be time for you to find your rebound guy.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com