Learning to let go of jealousy!
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
i`m the one who is jealous. i hate him going to work as he works with lots of slim pretty women. i know i can trust him but he broke that trust once but i forgave him but she lives next door. my ex husband did the dirty on me so i feel that i don`t want history to repeat its self. we have just got engaged after 8yrs and are getting married next aug, so why am i feeling this way ?
Oh I know what you mean! It's hard to let go of old hurts and move on to a renewed relationship. Keep in mind that you've been together for longer than the average marriage lasts, so that should have some comfort. Perhaps when you get married it will ease off as you hear him devote himself to you. In the meantime, you could practice answering the jealous thoughts and feelings with reassurances to yourself that he's yours, he has been yours and you have reason to trust him now. Feelings don't change until you give yourself other ways of looking at it... so find ways to remind yourself of all the good qualities and reasons why he would be faithful.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com