Worrying About his Friends
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I'm a freshamn in high school. I have this friend that I know for sure has a crush on me, because he told me. I never wanted to admit it but I like him too. I have just gotten over my last boyfriend of whom I was dating for two years, and I was trying to figure out how I feel. I have been over my last boyfriend for about a month now and I have concluded that I like this "other friend". He has asked me out but I never gave him a straight answer..almost said no, but just never answered.
Now I want to answer him for sure but I'm worried about what his friends will say and If they will pressure him or influence him about "us". (if there will be) Especially one of his friends who I get along with but we dont really care for each other, and he comments about everyone and who they date. I'm just afraid that if I go out with him that his friends will tell him what to do and say comments, and pressure him into like breaking up with me, or talking behind my back when I know thats not how he really is. He might act differently in front of his other friends. I don't want to get hurt.
He's liked me since the 7th grade, and I want to give "us" a chance".. What do I do?? What do I think??
If you're going to spend your life worrying about what other people think, you're never going to be happy. There will ALWAYS be people out there who enjoy making you miserable. It's the way the world is. YOU have to be happy and you have to ignore what the jerks say or do.
If you like this guy, date him! If his friends are jerks, then he should realize that and ignore them. Heck if they get bad enough, they aren't really his friends and he should drop them. A real friend encourages you to be happy and supports you when you're sad. A real friend does NOT maliciously tear down people for fun.
So date him, if you like him. Life is too short to obsess about what others might think about your happiness.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com