I Slept with my Cousin's Fiance
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
one sunday i went out with my cousin and her fiance, we had a great night and i went back and stopped at her house what i didnt realise was that ill be sleeping in the same bed as them, in the middle. not thinking any thing of it her fiance started to put his arm around me he said he never had any where else to put it. i left it as it was then he started to play around with my chest. i cudnt do any thing cuz my cousin was the other side of me and she would have known. we ended up goin down stairs and having sex. i really dont know what to do about it do i tell my cousin? because if he can doit lying next to her surely he will doit it all the time. i dont want to hurt my cousin but i dont want her to get married to someone like him? please help i really dont want her to hate me for what i have done
You definitely MUST tell her! Sure she is going to be angry. The moment he touched you, you should have gotten out of the bed. Surely you could have slept on the couch or somewhere else. To let someone touch you sexually and claim "I couldn't help it" is about the worst excuse that there could ever be. You had COMPLETE ability there to stop him. If you didn't want to hurt her, you could have stopped him quietly. Instead, not only did you let him do it - you EXPLICITLY left the bed to go have sex with him!!
Tell her and take your lumps. If you have ANY feeling for her, you do not want her married to someone who is going to bring home a sexual disease because he can't keep his hands to himself. Your momentary embarassment is nothing at all compared to a lifetime of living with a cheater.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com