He Left Me for his Daughter
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I met this guy, A while I was engageged to J . I instantly liked A, though my feelings for J had already been dieing. Well, I hung out with A alot more (my fiance was far away). Anyways I really started to realize I have alot more fun with A than J. I feel better about myself I'm no longer depressed. Well, I broke up with J on March 1 and started dating A on the 3 of March.
Everything is very pefect, well one night he mentions to me he might have a 2 month old daughter. I'm fine with that. Well about a month later he finds out it's his. He tells me he's been thinking about taking a break because he feels that he's not being fair to me, because he wants to devote all his time to her. Well we stay together, all the while he's hot and cold. I finally can't take anymore and break up with him. He told me he cares about me and misses me, but isn't ready for a relationship. I'm completely heart broken. What should I do?
It's really great that he wants to be there for his daughter - but the two shouldn't be exclusive! Lots of single parents date as well! Now if you and he were going out dancing every night while the daughter sat home with a babysitter that would be one thing. But if you were doing a fair number of family activities, and spending time together being happy, isn't that what the daughter would really like?
-- from Lisa
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